Moms, Let’s Help Ourselves

We often forget that moms are individuals with a past and identity before having children. That moment when she finds out she’s pregnant, the focus immediately shifts from “me” to “we”, and that feeling only intensifies the older the child becomes. Therefore, in order to truly give something back to the moms in our lives, one must simply let her figure out how best she can renew herself. Everyone is different, the needs of one mom vary from one to another. One mom might need a night out with girlfriends, another a long hot bath and a good novel. The cure for what ails is bio-individual, but the need is undeniably there.

When I first became a mother, I was overwhelmed by the realization of that responsibility. Breastfeeding, tummy time, around the clock feedings and diaper changes all contributed to a culture shock I had mentally prepared for but not emotionally connected to yet. I felt extremely tired and the weight of responsibility was leveling. I had always been strong, but this new life as a mom required a higher, more intense level of resiliency I hadn’t acquired yet. I had to adapt, and I wasn’t sure how to do it. I was a fighting a losing battle against the tide, and I felt myself being pulled under.

It wasn’t until I had healed enough from giving birth and could workout, that I saw my first respite from the pull of the metaphorical undertow. The road became a lifeline to my former self to pull out of the constant drudgery of mundane daily tasks that motherhood requires. In the 30-60 minutes I was out on the pavement I felt lighter and lighter. Each step was a reclamation of my former self, and I breathed in the freedom I felt had escaped me. When I returned home, tired and exhilarated at the same time, I was at peace with my life again, and happy to dive into diaper changes, cuddling and even teething meltdowns.

Running and eventually yoga, weight lifting, and meditation, were the outlets I needed to be whole again–another mother may have a completely different set of requirements. I use myself as an example because it’s what I know for sure. What I also know without doubt is that as women, we are intrinsically selfless creatures. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves that the cup becomes empty, and that is where it becomes a matter of health.

Health is more than what is on our plates. It’s found in our relationships, our career, our connection with a higher power, and of course nutrition and exercise. It takes going inward to find out how we as mothers are doing in each of these categories, and then making the appropriate changes to make ourselves healthy and happy.

It may sound extreme at first for her to take 30-60 minutes for herself every single day, but if you think of the mother as the center of the home, it makes perfect sense to nurture her. The health and happiness of a home is almost always directly related to the sense of wellbeing of the mother. But no one can help a mother, she has to do the work and find what she needs to help herself. So mothers, do the internal work, and families support her. The result is a scenario where everyone wins, and the potential of every family member can be fully realized

A Letter to My Husband on Father’s Day

Dear Husband,

We met eight years ago in the most unlikely of places–Las Vegas. I observed this tall, dark, and handsome man talking to my friend, and something happened internally to me. Your face seemed familiar, your Southern accent drew me in, and the way you looked at me slowed down the constant chatter in my mind. You shook my soul in mere minutes, and I hadn’t even spoken a word to you yet. After I found the courage to approach you, we talked and didn’t stop talking until…

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Love in Marriage When You Have Littles

 


When my husband, Sam, and I first got together our love was easy. We’d go to dinner, get drinks, or jump in the car on a whim and go camping for the weekend. We knew that when we had kids, things would change, but didn’t really dwell on it. I had co-workers tell me to wait at least five years after we married before having kids, so that we’d have our own time to enjoy each other and our freedom. Of course, me being me, I did the exact opposite and…

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A Review of the Tesla Model X

Background

The decision to purchase the Tesla Model X was not one we came to lightly. Aside from the initially staggering price tag, it requires a complete overhaul of the way you think about traditional modes of transportation. We were already familiar with electric vehicles, having owned a Nissan Leaf for a few years, but understandably that was like transitioning from a bike with training wheels  to a special edition Ducati.

We conducted copious amounts of research on the Model X before setting foot in the dealership to determine if the price was truly justified. We soon discovered that not only was it worth it, but that owning one would connect us to a community of forward thinkers who are changing the world for the better. This video produced by Tesla sealed the deal.

The Buying Process

Consistent with a complete deviation from the traditional vehicle, the buying process was just as unique and refreshing.  We started by visiting the Tesla store at Lenox Mall. Unlike every other dealership model, this felt like a non-predatory, educational experience. We were greeted by Apple Store-esque employees, who effused a genuine sense of enthusiasm and curiosity about the Tesla and our shared interest in it. We spoke at length with one such individual, Nick, who coordinated an appointment for an at-home test drive. A few days later, Nick came by (after-hours no less) and spent almost two hours explaining the Tesla’s features and letting us drive through the neighborhood–impressing all the dog-walking neighbors.

That night after debating the pros and cons, we decided to take the leap and order our custom Tesla. Again, here is an instance where this company has innovated the buying process, making it easy and bereft of any feeling of subjugation to a targeted sales agenda. We customized our Tesla, choosing six seats, the larger 22″ wheels, the premium upgrade package,  autopilot, and designated the interior and exterior to be all black. Cumulatively, there weren’t that many decisions to make, but ultimately there were enough to create a sense of ownership and artistic design. If you are purchasing a new Model X or S, use this link to receive $1,000 off.

The Waiting

It truly is the hardest part. From the moment we clicked “Order” and paid the $2,500 production deposit, it was approximately two months before we saw our vehicle in the driveway. Upon ordering, we were immediately assigned a designated point of contact, (“POC”) to guide us through the financing, production, and delivery process. We also received electronic updates on the vehicle’s stage of production, i.e. “Ordering”, “Confirmation”, “In-Production”, “Production Completed”, and “Delivery”. The production stage was by far the longest, and during this time we sated our thirst by daily visits the Tesla Motors Club Forum.

It was there that we commiserated with others in the same stages of production experiencing similar longings, and were simultaneously invigorated with stories and experiences from others who had already received their Teslas, and were more impressed than they had expected. Like any group of individuals, there were those with a more negative view of the  waiting requirement, whereas others understood the reasoning and value behind extended waiting due to the full auto-pilot upgrade and a more vigorous quality control approach.

The Delivery

The waiting period only made the day of delivery that much more exciting. We were contacted by our designated POC to schedule an appointment to pick-up our Tesla, sign paperwork, and take the 2-hour training. The forum had prepared us for what training would entail,  covering everything from opening and closing the frunk (front trunk as there is no need for an engine) to the major duties of the 14″ control panel that quite literally controls all aspects of the vehicle. It was somewhat daunting at first, but we were comforted by the fact that the manual is also located on the control panel, and anything we forget is easily searchable.

Key Features

There are too many to list in detail here, but my favorites include the Falcon wing doors, the navigation (which indicates the location of all Tesla and non-affiliated chargers), the adjustable suspension, full autopilot capabilities, Slacker streaming radio, and the ability to schedule charging (electricity is cheaper between 11pm and 12am). Additionally, your phone’s calendar can link to the Tesla and it will remind you of an event and ask if you’d like it to navigate you there.  Lastly, when Tesla releases software updates improving the vehicle’s energy consumption or simply a new phone icon on the control panel, installing is as easy and intuitive as an iPhone update.

Conclusion

We recently tested our new vehicle on a 5-hour road trip from Atlanta, Georgia to Beaufort, South Carolina, and the results surprised us. I thought having to stop in Macon and Savannah to recharge would be irritating and time-consuming, but the reality is that it gave us time to stretch our legs, witness a little history, eat at an amazing local spot frequented by Harrison Ford, The Rookery, and bond with other Tesla enthusiasts. The result was a return the classical experience of a true road trip. Our family enjoyed every minute, and consequently it was one of the best trips we have ever had together.

No Time To Workout? Try a Micro-Workout.

How many times have you said the words, “I just don’t have enough time to workout today” or “I’m just too tired to drive to the gym after working all day”? If you’re anything like me, chances are relatively high that you’ve talked yourself out of exercising due to time constraints or dwindling energy levels. Fortunately, you do not have to workout for an hour to maintain or even increase your fitness level. Micro-workouts are a great way to incorporate movement and strength training into your day without any real commitment.

Micro-workouts are ten minutes or less, and can be done with little or no equipment. If you’re not worried about scaring your co-workers, micro-workouts can be done deskside or in the stairwell. I choose to do my micro-workout first thing in the morning, as a way to loosen up, raise my metabolism for the day, and to encourage myself to drink at least a glass of water before I jump in the shower. I typically do a variation of push-ups, jump squats, core work, or quick spurt lateral movements. My favorite resource for these types of workouts is healthination.com. It has countless videos, most of which are in the ten minute range. I literally wake up, go downstairs, and go hard for ten minutes. I don’t even put shoes on–it’s really that easy.

Mirco-workouts are a great way to get your blood flowing and build strength. Researcher Eric Freese, Ph.D states, “It’s possible for an athlete to maintain or even increase fitness using shorts bursts of energy.” Freese ran subjects through four 30-second bursts of all-out cycling sprints three days a week over a six-week period, starting at four sets and gradually increasing to eight sets. “We saw improvements across the board,” Freese said. “Lowered triglyceride levels, increased mental energy, and improved overall mood as well.” You shouldn’t rely entirely on micro-workouts to stay in shape, but if you have a sedentary job, busy kids, or a long commute, these will help keep you happier, healthier, and more fit every single day.

These days being busy has become a badge of honor, but you owe it to yourself to make your health the number one priority in your life. Without it, you can’t perform at work, take care of your kids, or be an effective partner. Mirco-workouts provide a doorway into a life of better health that you can absolutely start right now. No excuses!

The Case for Working Out While Sick

Ever since I became a parent, I have been more frequently sick than I ever was before. And with the addition of children, any real downtime to recover, even with a helpful partner, is significantly diminished.

Far from anguishing in this new reality of my life, it actually has shown me that I am stronger than I realized and can push past momentary feelings of weakness and accomplish everything I need to do–to include exercising. Obviously if you are seriously ill this does not apply, but if you have a head cold, as I did this past week/weekend, read on.

Using the above-the-neck rule (i.e. stuffy nose, headache, sore throat) you can absolutely incorporate some moderate exercise while sick. If you are coughing heavily, or have ebola, you should probably rest and/or seek immediate medical attention. Deathly illnesses aside, moderate workouts while sick will immediately benefit you in three ways:

  1. Boost your mood: You feel terrible but you just worked out! You’re a bad ass, and now you have a rush of endorphins to carry you through the rest of the day.
  2. Detoxify: Sweating and drinking water while working out aids in more quickly expelling whatever is taking unwelcome residence in your system.
  3. Increase immunity: Moderate exercise while sick has been shown to stimulate the immune system and speed recovery. Plus, chronic resistance training has been shown to strengthen the innate immune system (nonspecific defense mechanisms that come into play immediately or within hours of an antigen’s appearance in the body. These mechanisms include physical barriers such as skin, chemicals in the blood, and immune system cells that attack foreign cells in the body.)

I personally feel better when I can move my body in some way when I’m sick, even at a reduced level. Furthermore, the training I did over the past weekend ensures that I don’t lose any momentum for the week ahead. Ultimately, you need to listen to your body, but take into consideration how beneficial a little activity can be the next time you’re feeling under the weather.